Understanding Children Better

It is the fortunate and blessed parent that can understand their children best and for others it takes a certain minimum effort to accomplish the task. Listed out are certain observations that are bound to help understand the child better and in much deeper self. It would be worthwhile to try to make a pattern out of a child’s behavior and to try to better read his mind and movements.

  • What does the child enjoy doing the most?

This is a very basic question that needs to be dealt with as far as possible in an objective manner. It does help understand the child both in the mental state as well as the physical state. A child that runs around and plays all the time does not mean that the child is truly happy. If the happy state does translate to a more wholesome relationship with the rest of the family, then it is certainly a good factor to consider.

  • How does the child react to unpleasant stimuli?

With this study it is possible to rate the child as a proactive person or a passive person. The proactive person would tend to react positively to bad stimuli or situation by changing the manner of its approach to the problem. For instance, if the child does throw a tantrum when denied a second helping of ice cream, it speaks of his stubbornness and lack of empathy.

By being adjustable for the most part and more so as a child, the youngster learns the fine art of getting along with others and some who might not be totally inclined towards him.

  • Social skills

In society, it is often the social skills that help a person move up the ladder while at work or even otherwise in society in general. Lack of social skills has to be identified early and corrective action set forth from the very beginning.

It is quite possible to develop social skills and communication abilities. But there is a standard limit to which the person is subjected to at most times. Thus for the most effective development, it is necessary to start off early and to make the necessary corrective changes.

  • Adjustability

This is the skill that allows a child to move to a new environment and get acclimatized to the conditions. It needs not be physical conditions all the time but at times psychological ones too. There are a lot of development factors that influence this part to a large extent and it is the effort put forward by those near and dear that sets apart the slow adjuster to the fast adapter.


A child can at best be considered to be a collection of feelings and emotions. Few people realize that behavioral traits can be developed and taught to a small one, if caught on sufficiently early. The key to understanding children is to make sense of the signals that are emanating from them at each instance.